Some people probably assume that having a high IQ automatically means someone is also very emotionally intelligent, but the two don’t always go together. Both are important to the way we all live and work.but there is no real connection between them.
It’s entirely possible to meet someone who is extremely logical and book smart, but whose interactions and understanding of other people still fall flat. These people tend to be so caught up in being conventionally intelligent that they often say strange, even insensitive things that show that their interpersonal skills are not very good.
These are the phrases that people with high IQ and low emotional intelligence say almost all the time:
1. ‘Where is the evidence?’
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Truly deep, rational thinkers obsess over how processes like the scientific method are based on real evidence, to the point of becoming obsessive. They refuse to accept anything that cannot be supported by significant evidence, leading them to see the world in overly black and white terms.
The world we live in is not provide many definitive answerswhich makes it nice to be able to follow your gut when there really is no other way to know for sure. But this makes really smart people uncomfortable, and they often say things like this that invalidate the way others have learned to trust their own intuition when necessary.
2. ‘That doesn’t make sense’
Very intelligent people are big fans of logic. To them, something just doesn’t make sense if it’s not logical and if it’s not easy to see how someone came to that conclusion.
In reality, a It is estimated between 90 and 95% of the decisions. They are made based on people’s emotions, not logic. However, people with high IQs can’t follow that kind of thought process, so they try to refute those ideas instead of striving to reach someone else’s level.
3. ‘It doesn’t matter what you feel if it’s not true’
In a world filled with more and more misinformation and fake news, many people argue that what is factual and true is most important and that, in comparison, people’s feelings don’t really matter. This is especially true for anyone who is intelligent but not overly empathetic.
As much as people deeply rooted in rationality don’t want to admit it, feelings are really important and impact the way people learn and solve problems. No human being can truly make a decision without their emotions being involved in some way. That might distort your perspective, but it also means that your feelings do matter.
4. ‘You’re overreacting right now’
Psychotherapist Ilene S. Cohen, PhD, said that “overreactions often have little to do with the immediate situation and more to do with unresolved personal fears and insecurities.” So if someone is supposedly overreacting, you probably don’t have much, if any, control over it.
However, that won’t stop someone with low emotional intelligence from thinking you’re completely overreacting. Intelligent people rely on logic and facts, and when they see someone react to those things in a way they consider too strong, they will probably label them as immature, although they could easily be accused of being the same.
5. “That’s actually not true”
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The smartest among us really like to be right and don’t mind hurting other people’s feelings to prove it. They might bluntly claim that someone’s most cherished belief is ridiculous just because they want to show off their own intelligence.
There are some situations where it makes a lot of sense to correct someone out of concern and care, but other times it’s simply not necessary. But People who refuse to validate others in their quest to be right. They’re not really helping. They are simply showing that they have no emotional knowledge.
6. ‘It’s really simple’
Most of us can probably relate to the unfortunate feeling of not understanding something, only for one of the smartest people we know to make us feel even more incompetent by saying that it’s a really simple concept that we shouldn’t struggle with.
These are the type of people who tend to have too high an opinion of themselves and belittle others to deal with your own insecurities. Obviously this is not a person who can be described as emotionally intelligent, no matter how brilliant he may be.
7. ‘Everyone knows it’
Few things are worse than having some kind of special aha moment that someone else immediately squashes by saying whatever it is you just discovered is common knowledge. They don’t have the emotional depth to recognize that, even if they think it’s obvious, it didn’t seem that way to you.
Someone who acts this way really goes beyond being too smart for their own good and into toxic territory. people who hurt others so they can feel better about themselves They are not who you want to be around.
8. ‘People don’t think anymore’
Some intelligent people act as if they are part of a rare and dying species. They know they are smart and they know other people are smart too, but they see the general population as dumb and uneducated. If someone doesn’t think the same way he does, he assumes they just aren’t thinking at all.
This could be explained by a Cognitive bias known as the Dunning-Kruger effect.. This leads people to think they are much smarter than they really are because they can’t recognize what they don’t know. In other words, if you don’t know something it’s like it doesn’t exist.
Obviously, this will seriously distort the way that person sees reality, making them even think that they are the only intelligent person left.
9. ‘You’re too sensitive about this’
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There are cases where people actually let their emotions affect their judgment, but there are also times when intelligent but unsympathetic people will criticize others for being overly sensitive because they had the audacity to consider emotions along with facts.
Curiously, Relationship Therapist Ken Page Really Thinks that the things others accuse us of being overly sensitive about are “fundamental gifts,” meaning they mean a lot to us and we probably know a lot about them. Therefore, it is possible that the person who criticizes you for your sensitivity knows less about the topic than you do.
Mary-Faith Martinez is a writer with a bachelor’s degree in English and journalism covering news, psychology, lifestyle and human interest topics.
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